Intentional Living's Blog

The Beauty of Self-Parenting!

intentionallivinginc — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:55:40 +0000

It feels absolutely wonderful and extremely powerful to be able to give myself emotional intimacy, self care, all the love in the world, and to be able to protect myself with my high level of dialog. I am re-raising myself and under my own care, as I respond with ability to give myself all of my emotional dependency needs. It is so comforting to know that I can do this with as much duration, frequency and intensity as I see fit! I am powerful beyond measure feeling very safe, sane, and secure in the world!! Thank you God!!

Surrendering to the “Journey”

intentionallivinginc — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:43:58 +0000

Surrendering to the “journey”. Letting go of being “done”. It is not about being done. If I accept my karmic curses I can accept my dharmic blessings. I often have to remind myself of this truth. Since I do so much inner work, sometimes my ego falls under the misconception that hopefully one day I’ll be “done”, as if one day I’ll be perfect. Although intellectually, I know how ridiculous this sounds, emotionally my Ego still tries to believe this. If my ego believes this to be true, then it gets to victimize or blame and I start hearing thoughts like, ” all this stuff doesn’t work, or I’m still broken”..”blah, blah, negative blah”. If I choose to accept that life here on the earth plane will have its problems and I am constantly growing and learning then I can let go of being “done”. I can feel and I can release. The parallel to the physical body (of course) is so true: Just like I need to take in my food, break it down, retain the good and eliminate the waste; emotionally, I need to “feel” the experiences of life; break it down, retain the good, and eliminate (release) the waste. As part of the human condition, I have emotions and the ability to feel; Thank you God! Again, like the physical body, my health and welllness will depend on my transit time and how quickly I can get back to my center! Namaste’

Forgiveness

intentionallivinginc — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:20:03 +0000

Forgiveness is a self-protection mechanism. It does not mean that I condone or minimize what happened. I simply choose to truely see it for what it was and allow myself to feel and release the emotions which are attached to it. Once I release the emotion around the event I can choose not to accept it as a toxic influence in my life any longer because I de-activated my ego defenses. Forgiveness releases the burden of the negative feelings and energy which can weigh me down. The negative feelings hurt my shoulders, makes me tired, and basically uses my energy in an unproductive way, which keeps me stuck. If I choose not to forgive, it is like giving my power away to that person. When I can choose to hate the sin but love the sinner, I am releasing myself from my past. I am the one who is letting go. I am holding it, it is not holding me. Holding on to fear, anger and resentment weighs me down and DE-PRESSES my life force. Why do I want to give someone that power over my life? I don’t, therefore I choose to forgive; Not condone; not agree, but forgive and let the Law of Karma bring justice to that person who wronged me. And if I need to forgive myself for dis-honoring or disrespecting myself, then I observe and correct my behavior and move on. I am not my behavior.

How Often Do I Take the Blame?

intentionallivinginc — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 16:52:19 +0000

It was easy for me to understand the concept of mature boundary protection in terms of how I allow others to treat me. Of course, it made sense that if I allowed someone to mistreat me in the form of yelling at me or telling me what to do, I was allowing them to trespass. However, what I have further learned is that taking on someone else’s feelings as if they were mine is ALSO a violation of boundary protection! When someone has anger towards me or frustration, even joy, those feelings are not mine. Those feelings are that persons, not mine. If I chose to take on their feelings it usually leads to feelings of guilt, shame or blame. My feelings are just that…my feelings.

I am 100% responsible for my own happiness. I am 100% responsible for all of my feel-good feelings.

Transcending Fear

intentionallivinginc — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 14:04:00 +0000

Underneath all the fear and all the judgement is LOVE. When we allow the heart to ascend past the brain we will feel the lightness and warmth of the LOVE within. This warmth releases the knot in my stomach, the grip in my chest, and the tightness in my face as the tear rolls down my check.

Set MySelf Free!

intentionallivinginc — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 13:11:52 +0000

To love with all the imperfections, is to be real. To become real and not an object is to allow all the imperfections to be seen. Give back the anxiety and not react to the fear. To stay grounded and sure of who I am and why I am here. To be free of the guilt and protection. I Am Living. I Am free. Others may not like it, but that only gives me the information that they are not free themselves. In that light, I really don’t want to hang with them anyway! I am at peace knowing I Am alive. Namaste’

Understanding the Food and Body Connection

intentionallivinginc — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 04:28:32 +0000

Food and Body is not separate from thoughts and beliefs.

I have often met people who try to separate theses connection. I hear it in their everyday speech, “If I only ate the right foods, then I would have the perfect body”, or if I could eliminate my sweet tooth then I could lose 10 pounds”. First of all, it is never just one thing, food, or issue that gives or doesn’t give people their ideal body shape.

Holistic Nutrition is about treating the whole person. There are Primary Foods and Secondary Foods. Secondary foods are the foods we eat. Primary foods are the things in our life that feed our Soul, our passions.

Primary foods can be broken down into four main categories; Relationships, Career, Spirituality, and Fitness. The more primary food we have in our lives, the more the secondary food will support it and if there is an weight issue, the less the amount of secondary food we will need. Love is the most powerful, healing vibration there is. I am sure most of you have experienced the love diet, where you meet someone and of a sudden you are down 10 pounds! Finding our passions is our birthright; it is what makes us unique. The day I rekindled my childhood passion and started dancing again, was the day I stopped exercising and started loving life. It was no longer something I “had” to do; I couldn’t wait to get there! My mindset switched from a negative fear-based, (If I don’t do this then I am going to be fat”) vibration to a positive, love-based, (“I can’t wait to do this”) vibration!

Which Primary Food category needs more passion and vibration in your life?

Primary vs Secondary Foods

Spiritual Growth

intentionallivinginc — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:29:47 +0000

Most spiritual paths are pretty much the same in the fact that there is a personal self and a Higher Self to work towards. In hatha yoga, the warrior postures give us the opportunity to feel this. To be a spiritual warrior means to have the courage, endurance, strength, and compassion to fight the fight within. Our personal issues do not define who we are. When I define myself by my issues I am placing a limitation on my Self and using it as an excuse to not go beyond. It is a matter of choice to go beyond and feel the power of our Higher Self. If I am unhappy with an area in my life, it is my responsibility to change this. No one can save me but Me. I can gather all the intellectual information I can through books, courses, and therapy, but at the end of the day, the shift, the alchemy and transformation has happen within me. This is where compassion and love for mySelf come in. Nurturing mySelf like I would a small child.

Unconditional Love and Acceptence

intentionallivinginc — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 16:24:48 +0000

What would it mean for me to call a ceasefire with myself?

To love myself, no matter what

To love myself, with no conditions.

To love myself without the word “If” or “when” coming first

Who would have thought such little words could have such HUGE content.

Once again, “Life here on the earth plane is a paradox”!

Today I call a ceasefire

On the war with myself

There will be no more “ifs” or “when’s”

Only love and compassion

Now and Forever

I surrender to my Higher Self, as I ask for help

This is a big one!

The Pandoras Box of Health

intentionallivinginc — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 16:48:13 +0000

The best part of improving your health is that, like Pandora’s Box, once you open it there is NO going back. As you learn new habits and your body gets introduced to better and more powerful foods, you will no longer crave “junk food”. It is no longer satisfying, and your body will actually reject the same junk it once longed for every day.

Unlike many of the cycles of life which seem to be vicious and unfair, this is a cycle that continuously rewards you. The healthier you eat, the better you feel, so you will WANT to CONTINUE eating healthy foods so you WILL CONTINUE feeling EVEN BETTER.

Naturally, as with all transformations, there are regressions. I did not say it would be easy kicking those fast food habits. But with myself and the people I have worked with, I have found that each time you regress, you end up asking yourself “Why am I here again?” and charge forward with more commitment, trust, and determination.

And even though processes are slow, and the thought of your total transformation taking up to 2 years seems like too much time – think of how long ago your bad habits developed and how quickly the time has gone by. For some people, an event turned their life sour, and though it seems like blink in time, it’s actually been 5, 10 or 15 years. If you devote the time now, that could be 5, 10 or 15 years of wonderfully healthy and prosperous years.

Your health is THE MOST IMPORTANT INVESTMENT in your life. Otherwise, every other aspect of your life is compensated.

Think about it.

~Sue